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Q: My best friend and I used to be at the same level. There is an issue she has that she isn’t dealing with. I’ve been trying to help her heal but she resents me for telling her the truth. Its like i’m evolving but she doesn’t want to grow & its affecting our friendship. What should i do?

A: Sharing The Light

“Therefore, be a light unto the darkness, and curse it not. And forget not Who You Are in the moment of your encirclement by that which you are not. But do you praise to the creation, even as you seek to change it. And know that what you do in the time of your greatest trial can be your greatest triumph. For the experience you create is a statement of Who You Are—and Who You Want To Be.” Conversations with God, through Neal Walsh

A: Sometimes you get so full of light, that you want everybody to feel your peace. On a deep level, you are soulfully aware that the more people that live in light, the closer we would be to a Utopia with all its romantic promises—that are possible, for the record. Every little moment becomes a monumental opportunity to create. The first you wish to save, are those you love.

Sometimes, you are lucky to start the path with a soul mate (lover, friend, parent, child.) You learn together, create together, experiment with new gifts, and point out each other’s celebrations and each other’s failings.

The risk in these gifted situations, is that one may feel ‘entitled’ to dictate the path of the partner because maybe they see something (a denial, negative emotional content etc) that the other doesn’t. The first reaction is to jump in and say, “I see a trauma you forgot! I see baggage you are denying!” Remember: It may not be the proper time for the other to see this inner ‘demon.’ We choose the bags we carry, because there was an experience we wanted to have. On a soul level, the other may love that peace of baggage, for the life experience it is bringing them. Sometimes the soul chooses to see the light in glimmers at first, so that the truth comes in pretty and not blinding. Seeing it all in one shot may be too much to handle. Let people they’re pace. Maybe you are allowed to see this “dark place” in the other to prepare you for the transformation that is possible for the other, not mandated. Never impinge on free will, even subtly.

That is why psychics can only see whispers. If we were able to see “it all” for you, what would be the point of you continuing? If we see all and revealed all, we would literally ‘blow your mind,’ and our own! Psychics are nothing more than a fun yet effective video game button sequence that can help you avoid the obstacles, dead ends, and maybe give you an energy trick or clarity of vision for the next round of the game.

Maybe you are meant to merely cheer your partner on. Learn as an observer, in loving fascination at this wondrous transformation or non-transformation, and the beauty of whatever the consequence, because ‘good’ or ‘bad,’ it’s all an opportunity for creation!

The dilemma that arises from militant authenticity (which I’m not condemning for oneself!) is it puts expectations on the other to keep up. Not fair. Another common situation that arises from the partnership is that the paths begin to divide and one or both resist the change. Sometimes our egos use our spiritual lingo against us, in that we begin to accuse the other of denials and escapist pursuits when in reality, they are merely living their path at their pace, using their free will, to create what they want, which often is apart from you. This is painful, and a subconscious abandonment experience arises which is a lonely moment. Not to mention, not everything has to be hugely symbolic of some huge inner battle. Sometimes a few pounds are just that, a weekend retreat or girl’s night is just that. Sometimes its OK to just be OK.

Humans are multifaceted creatures. Quoting Conversations with God again “God is in the profane and profound.” I love that book and hold it no less sacred than the bible, as with all books, but this one I highly recommend if you are on either side of the fence we are discussing. If someone asks, answer….but don’t impose your expectations of what you think they should/could be and do. Unconditional love, to which most of us aspire, means loving and celebrate the other as is and sometimes paths are meant to separate to make room for the new.

daniela siggia

www.thinkingbliss.com